Religious faith has had pretty bad press this year, especially in light of such violent extremes in places like Iraq and Syria. It's hardly surprising that so many people look on with bemusement or distain whenever issues of faith crop up in conversation. To be honest, I often carry such feelings too. I saw one person comment on Facebook this week, "Why don't religious extremists practice extreme peace?" It's a very good question.
Yet in spite of all this, perhaps at times because of it, I for one am grateful to God for sending Jesus Christ into this world. Jesus brought a message and a lifestyle that spoke loudly of an extreme peace, an extreme love, that are well beyond any human-religious system or rational ability to comprehend. As we watch the news this Christmas with all its reports of violence and pain, I wish you the peace and hope of God, of Jesus.
I mentored a young woman this week who was struggling with the responses she sometimes receives when working with others in a business partnering capacity. She often feels undervalued or dismissed which then influences how she approaches and what she evokes and encounters in subsequent conversations. As the discussion unfolded, I was struck by her description of how she framed her role and authority alongside that of others in her own mind and how this impacted on her interactions with clients.
I was reminded of Transactional Analysis' (TA) insights into relational dynamics and so introduced some of its basic principles to her. TA definitely struck a chord so I looked online for simple introductory material to point her towards to learn more about it. I have read Harris' I'm OK You're OK and Berne's Games People Play and have just ordered a copy of Stuart & Joines' TA Today. However, I discovered a series of short videos on YouTube by Theramin Trees that were perfect. I've posted the links below for anyone else who may be interested.
TA1 - Ego States and Basic Transactions
TA2 - Games
TA3 - Gimmicks
Nick is a psychological coach, OD consultant and trainer, specialising in critical reflective practice.