We sometimes associate 'rescue' with a danger of creating unhealthy dependency, and it does carry that risk. Yet what when a person, team or group faces a crisis that is absolutely beyond their capacity to resolve?
Henry stood with his wife, along with the other prisoners, with their backs against a cold wire fence. In front of them, camp guards were mounting machine guns on tripods and aiming at them. It was early morning and they had been forced outside in a hurry. There was an uneasy tension in the air and the guards were looking both menacing and stressed. In that moment, Henry knew they were about to be shot down in cold blood. He gripped his wife’s hand, looked upwards and prayed silently to Jesus. Then, as if out of nowhere, Allied plane after plane flew low over the camp with ‘RESCUE’ painted white on the undersides of their wings. The camp guards panicked, dropped their guns and ran to escape. Saved. As Henry recounted this memory, I felt transfixed by the intense drama he and his wife had lived through. I tried to imagine that moment when all seemed lost, and then the sudden, unexpected and immense relief of seeing those planes appear. The feeling of hope in the midst of such complete and utter helplessness must have been incredible. I felt caught up in a similar yet very different drama today when I heard of a young student in the Philippines who is critically ill and whose family is too poor to pay for his medical bills. A poor Filipina prayed to Jesus, raced to his help, gave what little she had and inspired others to get involved too. They pooled enough money to pay for an emergency transfusion. I try to imagine how he will feel when he wakes up to this news. It’s not just practical assistance. It’s being seen, valued and loved, including by total strangers who chose to act. When have you been rescued from a situation that felt impossible? How did you feel? What difference has it made in your life? How do you bring hope to those without hope?
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Ian Henderson
12/1/2021 10:05:22 am
A great piece Nick. I can't claim that I've ever been in such a situation - I've been very lucky you see. But, as a 6 year old boy in a hospital bed a doctor told my father that they didn't think I would survive through the night after an operation. My Dad was a personally religious man and conversed with what he perceived as God and..........well, 58 years later I'm typing this message.
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Nick Wright
12/1/2021 09:53:33 pm
Thanks Ian. Wow - that sounds scary too. I'm glad you did survive!!
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Ian Henderson
13/1/2021 05:19:38 pm
Thanks Nick - so am I!!!!!! Who knows who Wendy would have finished up with and the kids would have had to get used to a different dad!!!!
Nick Wright
13/1/2021 06:14:00 pm
LOL Ian! I’m glad the lockdown hasn’t dampened your sense if humour. 😜
Helen Dillon
28/1/2021 12:06:10 am
Having just watched the BBC4 documentary on the "Windermere Children", I believe we worry too much about "creating unhealthy dependency", as if that was a likely destination of rescue. The point about rescue, surely, is that it isn't the end, but the beginning.
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Nick Wright
28/1/2021 12:07:50 am
Hi Helen. “The point about rescue, surely, is that it isn't the end, but the beginning.” Well said!
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Paul Webb
28/1/2021 10:37:46 am
Nice post.
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Nick Wright
28/1/2021 10:38:23 am
Thanks Paul.
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Elena Bain
29/1/2021 07:51:00 am
A very thought provoking read Nick.
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Nick Wright
29/1/2021 07:52:13 am
Thank you, Elena. I appreciate your kind feedback.
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Clare Jarvis
29/1/2021 07:54:20 am
Yes, I agree with the old saying that therapy is about helping clients to help themselves, but basically, when somebody's drowning you pull them up first, and worry about teaching them to help themselves second!
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Nick Wright
29/1/2021 07:58:22 am
Thanks Clare. You expressed that well! You reminded me of parallels in the INGO world where there’s a difference, and a relationship, between an emergency response and a longer-term developmental response...and wisdom in knowing which is needed and when.
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Amy Wong
29/1/2021 08:02:43 am
Great article really thought provoking. Thanks for sharing Nick.
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Nick Wright
29/1/2021 08:03:42 am
Hi Amy - and thank you for such affirming feedback. 😃
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Fraser Hay
30/1/2021 08:19:37 pm
Nick one, Nick.
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Nick Wright
30/1/2021 08:19:53 pm
Thanks Fraser!
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Angela Delglyn
31/1/2021 10:06:08 pm
An experience such as those described here serve to make one aware of ones context in the wider world, and in so doing, that perspective can never be closed down again. Very humbling Nick, thank you.
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Nick Wright
31/1/2021 10:09:28 pm
Thank you, Angela. You're welcome. Here's another short piece that certainly helps me to keep my own life and work experiences in perspective: https://www.nick-wright.com/blog/on-a-knife-edge
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Ann Hobbs
1/2/2021 10:45:39 am
This is so true! I didn't realise this until I made the transition from holistic therapist to coach. One of my clients said to me "I can't believe you are not doing massage anymore, you have let me down". I then felt that she was too dependent on me and wanting me to rescue her from her pain. When I transitioned into being a coach my first port of call was then to say to clients that I will help them but it is their responsibility. What I felt I was doing all those years was taking responsibility for my client - it doesn't work. You can't rescue anybody and neither can they.
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Nick Wright
1/2/2021 10:47:31 am
Hi Ann and thank you for sharing from personal experience. It sounds like this related short piece may resonate with your experience as a coach? https://www.nick-wright.com/blog/just-enough
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